Emotional Maturity in Adults
A case study on Emotional Maturity in
Adults... Fritz and Marie thought that they were an ideal
combination. Both came from essentially the same social
background. Both had excellent characters,
and high ideals of service to their fellow men.
From where they stood, theirs would be the ideal
marriage. Yet from the beginning it was evident that something was
terribly wrong. Serious troubles began to develop which caused both
deep concern. What was the matter? Where had they slipped up?
whom they consulted soon discovered that the difficulty lay in this
matter of emotional need.
Each had been emotionally deprived for years, which
was partly the basis of their common desire to save the world. Each
expected that after their marriage, the other would carry him
emotionally. They were like two people who each supposed that the
other was wealthy, and married each other for their money, only to
discover that both were desperately poor.
Each thought that the other was emotionally rich
enough for two. It was a terrible shock to discover that neither was
emotionally rich enough, even for one. As there are physical
invalids who must be cared for by someone else, so there are the
They can give little to anyone else. Yet for
themselves they require constant attention. We all know some of the
symptoms. They are constantly demanding of other people. The least
little thing upsets them, and makes them pouty and unpleasant. Then
those to whom they are related must stop everything and nurse them.
Those who are emotionally helpless are really
helpless. It is neither kind nor scientific to regard them with
contempt or disgust. Yet at the same time, we must recognize also
that they are not ready for marriage. Emotional maturity in adults
do not mean that the individuals are never in need of emotional help
A man may be unable to open a door, not because
he is physically disabled, but because he has his arms full of
So those who are normally strong and able will, at
times, need someone to smooth the way for them because they happen
to be carrying an unusual load of emotional burdens.
Furthermore, as normally healthy people
occasionally become ill and need to be waited on temporarily, so
emotionally healthy people occasionally need help and support.
Such support is one of the main reasons for
marriage. The important thing is that this support shall not always
be on one side. Success in marriage requires a give and take; a
mutual support by each of the other.
Like the tides, support must flow, now one way and
now the other. Emotional maturity in adults means that they can
both give and receive.
you developed enough to be able to live happily with others?
you be a good influence on your children?
can you tell about your emotional stability?
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