Parents Influence On Children
Consider the parents influence on children through
Lucy. She was sure her marriage was one never ending round of
delight. When she visited her married sister and bathed the baby,
she was convinced that nothing could be more wonderful.
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Influence On Children.
She did not realize that to the parents, a baby is
not only a source of deep joy, but a responsibility twenty-four
hours a day. Furthermore, caring for children means far more than
feeding them, staying up with them nights, and wiping their noses.
It involves also a vital emotional adjustment.
When a father slaps a crying baby hard enough to
kill it; when a mother leaves small children unattended and is found
dead in a car, the moral and personality limitations of the parents
What we do not see is that sincere and conscientious parents,
parents who do their best, often seriously damage their children.
Careful studies and clinical evidence show the harm which can
result, not only from ignorance, but from personality disturbances
of the parents.
Parents who are themselves frustrated and thwarted
may, despite careful physical care, make their children feel
unwanted and unloved, and thus cause more harm than might physical
abuse. It is true that, at times, all children are annoying, and
that parents, being human, will express their annoyance.
But if the child grows up feeling that he is
primarily a nuisance and a burden, their chances for developing are
seriously impaired. Children who are misfits, and some who turn out
to be vicious, did not all come from "bad" homes.
Some came from families in which the parents did
their very best, but a best which was not good enough because the
parents were emotionally disturbed. Competent parenthood requires
that the parents not only know how to bring up their children, but
also that they are themselves wholesome enough so that their
influence upon the children is desirable. So the question for you
today is this; can you see the potential in your date on becoming a
responsible parent to your children?
Now you know the significance of parents
influence on children, consider these other questions:
you developed enough to be able to live happily with others?
can you tell about your emotional stability?
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