For many, a personal experience with an adulterous
mate would come as a profound shock. The adjustments required would
be difficult and real. The first essential to surviving adultery, as
with any problem, is to find out what the behavior means. Here
are some possibilities.
Was it a single slip, not likely to be repeated? If
so would you talk it over to clear up the relationship? Or would you
What if it is not a single slip, but a regularly
established "affair" with someone else? Will you try to conceal
this, or continue it with the knowledge of the other?
What if you were threatened with divorce? Have you
basically changed the moral standards to which you agreed at the
time of marriage?
If so, has this fact been brought out into the
open, and adjustments made in the light of the changed situation? Or
was the adultery an expression of hostility, an act of aggression?
If so, have you reviewed the whole situation to determine the reason
for the hostility, and what should be done for the relationship?
I hardly expect any christian dating couple to decide
regarding all such possibilities in advance of
their own marriage.
If you are the victim of an adulterous
relationship, I would strongly recommend this free course to you
called United Front. The world has its own ways of
surviving adultery, but as christians, we must look to Jesus!