Teach teens more than abstinence, the author expressed her concern that abstinence teachers in the United States had use the wrong line of reasoning to encourage young girls to avoid the complications caused by premartial sex.

Sterility and suicide are definitely not the primary reasons why premarital sex should be discouranged. Being in our 20s, we have seen or heard of young couple who have had premarital sex and certainly did not suffer from suicide or sterility as a consequence. They were not ignorant of what safe sex meant neither were they ignoratn of the potential conseuqnces. They did it because they did not have the Will to Stop. That is the more pressing problem that sex education cannot cover the inability to practise control, or have mastery over oneself.

Having been sexually active in one partnership makes it easier to justify sex with other partners. Safe sex hence leads to having multiple sex partners. In other words, safe sex is no different from recreational sex.

The writer in adding that while abstinence may be the pathway leading to respect for oneself and others, it is good to have an accurate map and a compass to guide you as there may be a tendency to take shortcuts and get lost along the way, implies that the pracitising of safe sex is a healthier choice than unsafe unprotected sex.

We do not think that having recreational sex is freedom, in fact it is obvious to us that it is slavery as we have seen friends who cannot think of anything else except sex as a conclusion to a date. Therefore we consider safe sex as a shortcut too. Safe sex does not mean respect for the other party's body. It is treating the body as an object of entertainment - practising it safely so that there would not be any responsibility attached.

Is not this degrading not just to the human body but to the human person too?

There is a difference between sex and safe sex Sex is the complete union between husband and wife. Love dwells in the process. The latter implies that as long as sex is had safely, a man and women could just come together and experiment. This is not love. It is lust. Thus we do not see how that could inspire one to lead a healthy and sucessful life, should one choose to practise safe sex.

Written by Olivia Goh & Sharon Mary Yu
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