Has Your Date Passed The Social Acceptance Test?
Practically all social acceptance studies of
success in marriage agree. The more similar their social background,
the greater chance a couple will have for success, and the easier
and happier will be their adjustments.
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The problem can be likened, in some respects, to
that of language. You might associate for a time with someone
speaking another language just because you found it interesting, or
because you wished to learn their language. But in permanent
association the problems of adjustment will be much easier with your
For example, if a large number of men speaking
different languages were to get jobs in which they must work
together, it will be easier on all concerned if each elects to join
those of his own language.
The Spaniard who chooses to work with a
Spanish-speaking group does not thereby imply that he thinks his
language is better than French, or Russian, or Chinese.
He merely means that he will have a less difficult
time, and be under less of a strain if he and those with whom he
works speak the same language. So it is with your christian dating.
For this is a job which often puts those who work together at it
under considerable pressure.
The more they can speak the same language in their
backgrounds and standards, the more satisfactory will be the
relationship and the better job they will do. Your own group may not
be better than other groups, but it is usually better for you.
Social acceptance is one of the essential character
traits for successful dating and marriage eventually. The
manners which society requires may be, in themselves, unimportant.
The man who eats his potatoes with a spoon instead of a fork is not
harming anyone. Yet there is some justification for even "senseless"
They test the willingness of the individual to
respect the values and sensitivities of others, and of his
willingness to "play ball" with the social group. As such, good
manners are a part of good morals.
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