This is what can happen when the kindness traits are lacking in a person...Everyone in the office was surprised when Jim broke his engagement with Doris. For Doris was beautiful, brilliant,and attractive; the kind of girl, it seemed, whom anyone would be glad to marry.

Yet Jim had good reasons for his decision. He began to notice that Doris was unpleasant and discourteous to many people. She would turn on the charm for him, but she was consistently mean to the newsboy, the waitress, and the attendant at the gas station.

Jim wisely saw that if they married, she would in time treat him (and their children) the same way. He just did not want any. The person who harbors hatreds and grudges against others; who feels that other people are always giving him a dirty deal, is a poor marriage risk.

Prejudice against members of other racial groups is often an expression of personality difficulties which should cause one to stop, look, and listen. The Nazis were not regarded as good neighbors. Neither will anyone be who act toward others as they did.

We may not blame the person who is cruel, vicious, or mean. Often he is "more to be pitied than censured," but nevertheless he is not a good marriage risk. Even at best, those who live in the intimacy of marriage will hurt each other.

A basic gentleness and kindness traits toward others is an essential which you should be sure about before you marry.