Introvert And Extrovert
Are You Introvert or Extrovert?
Most people understand something of the introvert
and extrovert differences. As the names suggest, the interests of
the introvert tend to turn within themselves.
Those of the extrovert tend to turn to
interests outside themselve. Most people are not either one or the
other. They are in between. Yet, even so, they tend to be more on
one side than the other.
Generally speaking, the introverts are usually the
quiet, more reserved type who can have a good time being by
themselve. As a child they could spend all afternoon playing alone
with paper dolls or blocks.
As adults they do not mind being left alone for
long stretches of time. They may play solitaire a good deal. They do
not mind going to the movies by themselve. They can stay home night
after night and enjoy reading or the radio. Do not misunderstand
them. The introvert does not dislike people more than does the
On the contrary, they may greatly enjoy them. They
just does not need them in order to be happy. And they are less
likely to be satisfied with "just anybody." They often wants to pick
their company carefully.
The extroverts are likely to be the bubbling,
outgoing type. They are the ones who organize picnics and get
everybody to play games. Usually they are friendly and well-liked.
They may not like people any better than does the introvert. They do
have more need for them.
As a child they wanted always to have plenty of
company. If they found themselve alone, they always had to go
somewhere else, or have friends come over. Now if they go to the
movies, they want to make it a party.
They usually has more friends, although often not
as close friends as the introverts. Psychologists have devised
introvert extrovert test to indicate where people are on the
introvert and extrovert scale. If you are interested, you might be
able to arrange to take one of these tests. It may be fun to find
out where you both stand.
How will introvert and extrovert differences
affect your christian
If you are both introvert and extrovert, the
adjustment will probably be made easier. Yet it will make a real
difference in the kind of home life for which you should plan.
For example, if you are both extroverts, you will
probably want to entertain a good deal. You will therefore want a
place with a large living room and refrigerator. In buying
furniture, for example, you will probably want to avoid the more
delicate and "nicer" types, and get good, stocky stuff which can
If you are both introverts you may want a different
kind of establishment, even though you postpone the purchase of
really nice furniture until after the children are fairly well
grown. If he is strongly introvertive and she is the opposite, the
adjustment may be more difficult. He may resent not being able to go
to a movie, or a quiet picnic without a troop of outsiders along.
He may not like having his house filled, night
after night, with people for whom he does not particularly care. She
may become restive at his lack of plans and his wish to stay home
nights and read.
On the other hand, the family may be more balanced
if one is an introvert and the other extrovert. The important
consideration in this connection is not whether you are extrovert or
introvert, but whether you are normal. If you are naturally either
introvert or extrovert, well and good.
But some people are artificially "jolly" because
they lack self-assurance. A man may surround himself constantly with
other people because deep inside himself he is afraid. Likewise the
introvert may be badly adjusted, with deep-seated fears. Both
introvert and extrovert can make good marriage partners, provided
that they are also well-adjusted, wholesome persons.
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