What's Your Attitude Toward Life?
Is your basic attitude toward life
appreciative or demanding? Your attitude determines your
to Character Traits page
Are you always annoyed at what you lack, or
grateful for what you have? Which do you see first, the doughnut or
the hole? Many others, while less successful in their beginnings,
have the same demanding attitude toward life.
As dating partners, they should be avoided. But how
is one to know? The attention of such a demanding person is centered
upon what they do not have, or conditions which ought to be
If they go on a picnic they will constantly be
harping on the fact that Susan forgot to put the ice cubes in the
lemonade, or Bill and Sally were late, or Jimmie forgot to bring his
Therefore the whole occasion has been ruined for
them, and they will make sure that it is also ruined for everyone
else. Such attitudes of constant complaint should be signs for those
who are matrimonial prospects to take cover.
A second symptom is that they can't be pleased.
They seem to reject everybody. The singer flats her high
notes. The strings in the orchestra were not good.
Nothing that anybody can do is good enough. Another
form of this difficulty is the belief that their problems could be
solved if they only had enough of everything.
If only I had enough money, sex, clothes, a
nice enough house, a good enough car, a social standing which was
high enough, then I would find life good.
Such people are partly right in their diagnosis.
They are unhappy because they are deprived. Their real tragedy is
that they do not know what they lack.
Hence their pitiable efforts to get more and ever
more of what they have, and their failure to find real satisfactions
after they have been successful.
No wonder he is desperate. So it is with the
hungers of personality. People whose real needs are to love others
and to be at peace within themselves, mistakenly suppose that more
money, power or prestige will satisfy their hungers.
They are often worse off when they succeed than
when they fail, because in failure they can always hope that success
would make them happy.
We rightly feel sorry for such people. But their
difficulties lie mainly within themselves. Until these have been
corrected, they cannot make a success of any relationships.
However hungry they may be for companionship and
love, to marry such a one before they are cured would be only to add
to the already increasing unhappy marriage statistics.
For a good marriage risk, find the person who would
be grateful for the honest love of a worthy man; grateful for the
home she could enjoy. Find the man who would be grateful for a
family; the man who can enjoy simple pleasures, magazines, books,
occasional outings, ball games, and especially the companionship of
Find the people who enjoy children, who like to
hear their neighbors sing in the church choir, or play in band
concerts, if there is plenty of popcorn.
Life is good for those who are able to select and
appropriate the parts in it which are good. An appreciative attitude
toward life should not, and need not lead to unwholesome docility.
To select the good is not to close our eyes to the evil, or to fail
to combat it.
We should be able to distinguish between good and
bad in music, government, bananas and carpentry work. The optimist
can be more dangerous than the pessimist. The good prospective mate
is not insensitive to evils.
They approach all of life, both evil and good, with
a creative attitude. They differs from the whiner not in what
they see but in what they selects to live with! Now that's the right
attitude toward life!
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